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sasunaru contest thinger?
I don't know who nominated Crossed Wires, but thank you, I'm super mega flattered. ♥
With that in mind, I declined the nomination anyway.
reason one: The fic has been on hiatus for almost two years and I STILL get "wahh wahh how dare you not update that story, I want more now" emails about it. Getting a fresh wave of "this story is good! WHY ARE YOU NOT WRITING MORE" really wouldn't motivate me to do anything but drag in my heels and grit my teeth at this point.
reason two: it was nominated to a section that was not helpfully marked as "narusasu allowed".
Which prompted an immediate kneejerk reaction of AAAAAA NARUSASU/SASUNARU IS THE SAME DAMN PAIRING -- OR IT DAMN WELL SHOULD BE, due to the old bullshit I got about this very same story. (Crossed Wires is so far mostly gen, but when it stops being gen, who do you think will take the lead for the first time, the guy who's been flesh and blood and loved porn all along for the last twentysomething years, or the guy who left his production line ten years ago and doesn't even come equipped with a cock? But no, Sasuke-sama is so virile and Naru-chan is so cute and shy and of course Naru-chan is going to be "the girl of the relationship". Frrrrrgh.)
Therefore I'm oversensitive about combinations of uke/seme issues with that story in particular. I know that.
I don't have a problem with stories where the behavior out of bed is IC -- you can make a case either way for who takes it up the ass in bed, it shouldn't affect the rest of their behavior. What I think we really should separate in stories? Stories that have the sexual behavior as just that, sexual behavior, and if the lemon doesn't ping your buttons then you can just skip it, and stories that have the seme/ukebullshit tropes as one of the core building blocks of the characters themselves and every single interaction they have. so I can avoid the fuck out of them kthxbai DDDX
So... yeah.
I understand the seme/uke thing is a kink. Your Kink Is Not My Kink and that's *okay*. I'm not judging. Dude, I'm into genderbending and polyamory and violent!bloody!sex and I don't mind a side of furries. It's cool to me. I just personally don't want to read it. And I don't like it when sasunaru isn't assumed to mean "naruto and sasuke in a pairing" because sasunarusasu is just too long to type, but to mean sasu-seme/naru-uke = natural order of things and when they reverse it, it's so out of place that it deserves its own warning tag. If the seme/uke order is important to the story and the fans (and yes, I know it is) then it should be in the story summary. It shouldn't be just assumed like this.
Anyway, it's my own problem, not the archive's problem. I don't get why some sections allow narusasu and some don't, but I'm not the one calling the shots and I'm sure they have their reasons. I'm not complaining that they should do things my way either. Obviously I'm in a minority in the fandom, and since I'm way too lazy to organize something time-consuming like a contest, I have no grounds to complain. But it clashes with my own biases and this specific fic's history pretty harshly. I don't think I would have reacted like that for Locker Room Therapy.
Actually the second reason was mostly me going TWITCH TWITCH but in the end when I paused to consider things rationally, it wasn't what prompted me to decline. The first one was more than enough on its own. I'm so tired of *gentle nudges* and "aw, I'm disappointed" about that fic. I know you guys like it. I like it too! Sort of. But I wrote myself into a corner, and the only way out I can find makes me queasy. I'm not even sure it'll work, I might have to delete all the new stuff because turns out it doesn't, but I can force myself to write it anyway! The thing is, writing is a *hobby* that I do for *fun*, and unless I'm in a very specific state of mind when I write the next several chapters, I'm not going to have much of that. So yeah, you can bet I'm dragging my heels about it.
With that in mind, I declined the nomination anyway.
reason one: The fic has been on hiatus for almost two years and I STILL get "wahh wahh how dare you not update that story, I want more now" emails about it. Getting a fresh wave of "this story is good! WHY ARE YOU NOT WRITING MORE" really wouldn't motivate me to do anything but drag in my heels and grit my teeth at this point.
reason two: it was nominated to a section that was not helpfully marked as "narusasu allowed".
Which prompted an immediate kneejerk reaction of AAAAAA NARUSASU/SASUNARU IS THE SAME DAMN PAIRING -- OR IT DAMN WELL SHOULD BE, due to the old bullshit I got about this very same story. (Crossed Wires is so far mostly gen, but when it stops being gen, who do you think will take the lead for the first time, the guy who's been flesh and blood and loved porn all along for the last twentysomething years, or the guy who left his production line ten years ago and doesn't even come equipped with a cock? But no, Sasuke-sama is so virile and Naru-chan is so cute and shy and of course Naru-chan is going to be "the girl of the relationship". Frrrrrgh.)
Therefore I'm oversensitive about combinations of uke/seme issues with that story in particular. I know that.
I don't have a problem with stories where the behavior out of bed is IC -- you can make a case either way for who takes it up the ass in bed, it shouldn't affect the rest of their behavior. What I think we really should separate in stories? Stories that have the sexual behavior as just that, sexual behavior, and if the lemon doesn't ping your buttons then you can just skip it, and stories that have the seme/uke
So... yeah.
I understand the seme/uke thing is a kink. Your Kink Is Not My Kink and that's *okay*. I'm not judging. Dude, I'm into genderbending and polyamory and violent!bloody!sex and I don't mind a side of furries. It's cool to me. I just personally don't want to read it. And I don't like it when sasunaru isn't assumed to mean "naruto and sasuke in a pairing" because sasunarusasu is just too long to type, but to mean sasu-seme/naru-uke = natural order of things and when they reverse it, it's so out of place that it deserves its own warning tag. If the seme/uke order is important to the story and the fans (and yes, I know it is) then it should be in the story summary. It shouldn't be just assumed like this.
Anyway, it's my own problem, not the archive's problem. I don't get why some sections allow narusasu and some don't, but I'm not the one calling the shots and I'm sure they have their reasons. I'm not complaining that they should do things my way either. Obviously I'm in a minority in the fandom, and since I'm way too lazy to organize something time-consuming like a contest, I have no grounds to complain. But it clashes with my own biases and this specific fic's history pretty harshly. I don't think I would have reacted like that for Locker Room Therapy.
Actually the second reason was mostly me going TWITCH TWITCH but in the end when I paused to consider things rationally, it wasn't what prompted me to decline. The first one was more than enough on its own. I'm so tired of *gentle nudges* and "aw, I'm disappointed" about that fic. I know you guys like it. I like it too! Sort of. But I wrote myself into a corner, and the only way out I can find makes me queasy. I'm not even sure it'll work, I might have to delete all the new stuff because turns out it doesn't, but I can force myself to write it anyway! The thing is, writing is a *hobby* that I do for *fun*, and unless I'm in a very specific state of mind when I write the next several chapters, I'm not going to have much of that. So yeah, you can bet I'm dragging my heels about it.
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Depending on the person you’re with, the mood you’re in, the time you need to get up the next day, and a billion and one other factors including whether or not there's a butterfly in China flapping its wings, you decide on if you want to take a giving or receiving role on an occasion by occasion type of thing. Of course, there are some people who go, I like giving, or, I like receiving. It depends on what you personally get out of an encounter.
But this is for girls. Guys have it way, way worse, mainly because there's so much baggage that our society attaches to them about being perceived as 'the woman'. You have no idea how long I agonised over the word choice for 'giving or receiving'. Reflex was to type active and passive, but that's incorrect and offensive for some and just the entire issue of what goes where for anal sex is just mind blowing.
Not for everyone, of course. Some people just go, 'I don't care what people think about me', or 'pfft, fuck no, it isn’t womanly', or, even, dare I say it, people that have come to terms with themselves and their homosexuality/bisexuality/etc. For example, Zack and Cloud. Zack is confident, flirty, and doesn't seem to mind what people think. However, he does come from a small, jungle community. Cloud likely grew up bullied, joined the army to be like his hero and is rather insure as a result of several things. However, fanon seems to say that he holds onto his 'precious people' with terrific strength, and that he's a stubborn son of a bitch.
Isolated communities are likely to have a massive stigma attached to homosexuality, because being gay, generally speaking, = no babies. No babies = everyone dies out/Not Good.
As for personality traits well ... for me, for basic!model!Zack and Cloud, Zack is far more likely to be at ease in the 'woman's position' than Cloud.
(As for Naruto ... pfft. Logic insists that homosexuality in the Naruto world is very, very frowned upon, if in the case of only gay monogamous relationships. There is a very, very high mortality rate coupled with isolated communities. They need babies and fast. For me, logic insists that Hinata is going to be recalled soon. The Hyuuga clan need her undamaged, and if there's a war on, they need babies to replace the people that are dying. As for flings, etc, I don't really think that anyone cares. Stress of the battlefield and all that. But serious relationships are highly likely to be hetro.)
And now I will go over here to me little corner and stop rambling.
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Now.