*hugs* I hope the operation goes well and there are no complications.
I have found, when talking to my own parents about family tragedies, that it sometimes works best for me to just talk about my feelings and memories of the person in question, and let my mom and dad comment if and when they are moved to share. They almost never open a conversation about emotional stuff, but they will usually respond after I've... I dunno, demonstrated that I think it's okay to feel and talk about feelings. And that I would like to hear about their own feelings -- that sharing will make me feel better.
I don't know if that fits your family, but, you know, maybe?
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I have found, when talking to my own parents about family tragedies, that it sometimes works best for me to just talk about my feelings and memories of the person in question, and let my mom and dad comment if and when they are moved to share. They almost never open a conversation about emotional stuff, but they will usually respond after I've... I dunno, demonstrated that I think it's okay to feel and talk about feelings. And that I would like to hear about their own feelings -- that sharing will make me feel better.
I don't know if that fits your family, but, you know, maybe?