I think, as you said the unique dynamics of each relationship are what's important.
Each of the issues you bring up - all of them can work really well if they are acknowledged in the fic and made a part of the story, rather than just left to the side as if the author is hoping the reader will ignore them and be distracted by the sexy.
Difficult relationships are realistic. Just because communication and equality/fairness is the poly ideal, it doesn't always mean it will be there. So maybe A is being an ass. Maybe B and C are fucking A cause of pity - if a writer acknowledges it, and the characters acknowledge it, it can make good fic and can even be hot (in that same way that fucked up twisted itasasu is hot.) But like you say, please don't tell me everything is shiny, when everything is clearly not.
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Each of the issues you bring up - all of them can work really well if they are acknowledged in the fic and made a part of the story, rather than just left to the side as if the author is hoping the reader will ignore them and be distracted by the sexy.
Difficult relationships are realistic. Just because communication and equality/fairness is the poly ideal, it doesn't always mean it will be there. So maybe A is being an ass. Maybe B and C are fucking A cause of pity - if a writer acknowledges it, and the characters acknowledge it, it can make good fic and can even be hot (in that same way that fucked up twisted itasasu is hot.) But like you say, please don't tell me everything is shiny, when everything is clearly not.