Just to make sure I got the end bit about not seeing himself.... Hiashi literally cannot see himself? (I have no idea how that would work, but I'll go with it.) If that is correct then he couldn't see Neji either because of the whole clone business but he's apparently now seeing something when he looks at Neji but it's too indistinct to see clearly. Which means that Neji really is becoming his own person separate from Hiashi.

Or did I totally misinterpret that part?